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Offline Maverick

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« Reply #15 on: August 13, 2007, 10:40:29 AM »
While it is true that marriage is the cause of divorce, it is not true that it will follow through in all cases.

There is a difference in being married over being single. Often it takes the second try before you realize what it is about being married that is important. As has already been mentioned, if you marry based on outward appearance only you will be unhappy in short order.

There is more to a person than the outward appearance. If you cannot have a real bond of friendship with your prospective mate you are wasting the time of both of you. Long after the blush is gone from the rose and the novelty of the new has worn away  the two of you will need to rely on the deeper bond that is the real relationship between you. If there is no depth there to begin with you will not have anything in common with that person to spend your life with.

Merely avoiding divorce will not remove you from financial ruin. If you engage in procreational activities you run the risk of siring a child. If so then you had better have more in common with that person than a quicky since you will be bound to the child for at least 18 years. If you cannot take responsibility for your recreation, at least have the responsibility to see that you cannot impregnate the woman as you won't be a father anyhow. You need a man to be a father, but only test tubes and sperm to breed.

If you can't be a man, get a vasectomy. That way your assets sill be safe from the specter of confiscation due to siring a child. It takes more than biological material to be a parent. If you can't be a parent (either gender) at least refrain from breeding.
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« Reply #16 on: August 13, 2007, 10:40:35 AM »
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Hummm Coming up on my 34th anniversary ... same women ... somewhere along the line we both fell out of lust ... and into love ... I suppose she's right ... we both found someone that we enjoyed being annoyed by ... for the rest of our lives ... and are going to stick around till we get even. :D:D:D
:rofl never quite seen it worded like that.  congratulations.  thirty years here and we're good friends with benefits. :D

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« Reply #17 on: August 13, 2007, 01:05:11 PM »

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« Reply #18 on: August 13, 2007, 01:54:16 PM »
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http://www.dont-marry.com


LOLOLOL! OMG! that was pretty funny.;)

Think that guy was serious though? LOLOLOL!
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« Reply #19 on: August 13, 2007, 02:02:41 PM »
25th Anniversary next Monday.  Best move I ever made.  She's my best friend, confidant, partner, etc.

Only a fool goes into a marriage thinking it won't take some work on the part of both people to make it successful.  We've battled through a lot over the years with the kids and the loss of two of them.  If that wasn't going to wreck us, nothing is.

All I know is that the sum of our parts is far greater then each of us as individuals.  We balance each other out.  When I'm not on my game she picks up the slack and vice versa.  

And she knew I was WW2 aviation goofy when she married me and still did it.  She's encouraged it and supported it.  

I have absolutely no complaints and I'd do it again in a heartbeat.
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« Reply #20 on: August 13, 2007, 02:18:57 PM »
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http://www.dont-marry.com


After shaking the hand of the person who invented spandex, the one that wrote that article would be next.
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« Reply #21 on: August 13, 2007, 02:22:26 PM »
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LOLOLOL! OMG! that was pretty funny.;)

Think that guy was serious though? LOLOLOL!


More than a grain of truth in most of that site though.  Some of the best humor is firmly grounded in reality.  None of what he stated is really unavoidable in a relationship or common to all, but in general, those are western society's views and customs on marriage.  

He just goes a bit over the top is all.   It's hard to point to anything there that doesn't happen amongst some marriages.  I couldn't find much that I'd contest, except that diamonds are artificially overpriced and are in reality "common" and "cheap", but the rest I'll concede to.

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« Reply #22 on: August 13, 2007, 03:33:38 PM »
It gets much easier if you marry your best friend, your angel on Earth.  If you honestly put her ahead of your interests, and she puts you ahead of her interests, then you have it made.
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« Reply #23 on: August 13, 2007, 05:51:52 PM »
Wooley's Successful Marriage Guide:

1. Don't even think about getting married until at least the later half of your twenties. Until you've been around the block a few times, you wont really know when you've found the right person.

2. Try before you buy: live together before contemplating getting married. Until you've shared a bathroom with someone, you don't know them.

3. Sleep with several people before contemplating getting married. Curiosity will be a problem otherwise.  

4. Learn when to lie and when to be truthful. Both have their places in a successful relationship.

5. There is very little that can't  be fixed by the occasional unprompted purchasing of flowers.

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« Reply #24 on: August 13, 2007, 06:03:43 PM »
My marriage was a happy thing. No regrets. After marriage came kids. No problems. And my wife is my best friend.
Just choose carefully ;)
And Drediock, you had an american wife I guess. Reminds me of the film hot-shot's,,,,,or was it naked gun?
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« Reply #25 on: August 13, 2007, 07:27:49 PM »
Dred I was just listening to "On the Street Where You Live" :)

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« Reply #26 on: August 13, 2007, 08:10:36 PM »
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I'm trying to figure out if y'all are really this cynical, or if it's some kind of false macho bravado here.


Just speaking the words of a grizzled  veteran here.
I highlighted the parts I did because I found them to be in large part true.

Now let me say from the start i dont hate women. In fact I love women.
Right up to the point where Im in a relationship with one and really get to know them  :p

But seriously I tend to get along with women Im not involved with fine.
Its the ones I have ended up in a relationship with where thew problems start and where I find the words to the song holds true.

I think part of the problem is..well they have been women.
I say that because being a woman there isnt much of anything I can do about it.
If a man were to give me the same aggrivation that some women have I'd Have simply knuckled down with em and two hours later be drinking a beer with the person.

Cant quite get away with that sort of thing with a woman.

And I think alot of women know this and use it to their advantage
Its like the old joke about why kids are made so cute.
Its to keep you from strangling them. And grandkids are your reward for not doing so. LOL

But seriously I find that dealing with women is alot like dealing with a kid.
you almost HAVE to use the same kind of logic because alot of times that is exactly the way they behave.

Difference is, you can dicipline your kid. Most women arent into that sort of thing LOL
With women they tend to push and push and pushj and B and B and B untill you go completely banannas yelling and cussing.

Then everything is ok again. Just like a kid after he or she has been scolded by their parent.

Unfortunately. sexually I like woman so much that even my feminine side is a lesbian :)

20+ years and Im still married.  Its...ok
But no way would I do it again.
Its just not worth the day to day aggrivation

Ideally I think the best relationship would be one where you get together, have a good time and what not. and then she goes home to her place and I to mine.
Then MAYBE get married at age 70 when its to your mutual benifit to take care of one another and make sure each other takes the right pills on time every day.

Before that. This watermelon is for the birds

I mean its ok but it becomes like a tuna sandwich.
Now I like Tuna fish sandwiches.
But its not what I want to eat every day of my life.
It gets old
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« Reply #27 on: August 13, 2007, 08:21:31 PM »
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My marriage was a happy thing. No regrets. After marriage came kids. No problems. And my wife is my best friend.
Just choose carefully ;)
And Drediock, you had an american wife I guess. Reminds me of the film hot-shot's,,,,,or was it naked gun?


And you obviously dont live in America.
Otherwise you would very well knwo the old Eddie Murphy bit about the first thing foreign wifes learn


"HALF"

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« Reply #28 on: August 13, 2007, 10:32:13 PM »
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And you obviously dont live in America.
Otherwise you would very well knwo the old Eddie Murphy bit about the first thing foreign wifes learn


"HALF"

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« Reply #29 on: August 14, 2007, 06:09:34 AM »
My wife is foreign. But not an American :D Maybe that's the point ?
It was very interesting to carry out the flight trials at Rechlin with the Spitfire and the Hurricane. Both types are very simple to fly compared to our aircraft, and childishly easy to take-off and land. (Werner Mölders)