Goodness, a lot of posturing! The ship commanders know their jobs, and they know how ridiculously stupid it would be to let the russians provoke them into firing first. There's a lot of "shoot first, think never" armchair admirals here, that's for sure.
I'm curious about the 'directly overhead' aspect of the report, during the cold war these 'buzz jobs' would usually be just off to one side or the other. If the reporting is accurate (and I question this), then this would represent a change, but I'm pretty skeptical.