It is useless to continue the discussion when there is no logic on the other side
I wasn't here as long as you, but I have learned that HOers will always justify HOs with "it takes two to HO".
Similarly, cherry pickers and horde runners will justify their lack of guts with "smart flying" or with "plane makes me fly that way", or "it's a war".
No matter what you say, it's not always possible to avoid head on situation, especially when outnumbered.
It's a bad form when guys who have every possible advantage, taking cheap shots. It's even worse when HOers complain about being HOed when, clearly, they were not.
And the worse is, when few select vets defend behavior like this.