"SEXTING" PLEASE READ PARENTS

[Xasthur]

Some of them even start fwd's of naked pics of girls in our school.

I could see how that could be considered sexual harassment. It's a bit of a dog act to do that, so I could understand someone taking action about that. Even if it wasn't legal action, just school action.

But a couple of chicks sending pictures of their bee-stings to their boyfriends? Naahhhhh.

You guys need to reign your justice system in and turf the Oprah Winfrey attitude.

"Harden the F -ck up" should be the new motto of your justice system. It would be way better.

Come to think of it, my justice system should change its motto to that too, it's turning into yours.

Some guy sued a council for $80 000 for not putting up a 'slippery when wet' sign on a dirt road.

It was raining, he didn't slow down for a corner and what do you think happened? What a tosser.

He ballsed up and it was entirely his fault. Did he think that wet dirt would somehow be more grippy? What a bender. I can't believe the judge didn't get up, climb down from the chair and punch him right in the face. What a joke.

He should have been told to piss off and given a massive fine for being a avacado and wasting everyone's time.

That would have been justice.

[oakranger]

I could see how that could be considered sexual harassment. It's a bit of a dog act to do that, so I could understand someone taking action about that. Even if it wasn't legal action, just school action.

But a couple of chicks sending pictures of their bee-stings to their boyfriends? Naahhhhh.

You guys need to reign your justice system in and turf the Oprah Winfrey attitude.

"Harden the F -ck up" should be the new motto of your justice system. It would be way better.

Come to think of it, my justice system should change its motto to that too, it's turning into yours.

Some guy sued a council for $80 000 for not putting up a 'slippery when wet' sign on a dirt road.

It was raining, he didn't slow down for a corner and what do you think happened? What a tosser.

He ballsed up and it was entirely his fault. Did he think that wet dirt would somehow be more grippy? What a bender. I can't believe the judge didn't get up, climb down from the chair and punch him right in the face. What a joke.

He should have been told to piss off and given a massive fine for being a avacado and wasting everyone's time.

That would have been justice.

LOL, "Told him to piss off".  Yea, we have a lot of toolboxes in America's that do the same thing.  Blame others for there arrogance and stupidities. 

[OOZ662]

If she's anything as nerdy as I am/was () she might've even been looking up "naked boys" just to begin learning about them. You have no idea how long I spent browsing around looking at scientific/medical pages/wikis that would have tripped the "red parent alarm" learning about the reproductive system and how everything works on both sides. (I blame being a pre-engineering student who wants to know the mechanics of the world. Yeah.)
In any case, because I had no life and did such a thing for a couple months, I saved at least three girls (that I can think of) from various sexual things that would not have ended well. I had to sit down and educate both the girlfriends I've had so far; one only past "it goes here" and the other so far as why it bled every month!

I honestly think that more knowledge would save us. Our teen clinic is packed, especially for a small town. Many of the girls are returning for their state-offered refill on the pill (state would rather pay for pills than babies), but a lot of them are showing up with the "I did it, now what?" question, including a decent number of middle schoolers. The only rebuttal I can see to giving our children such knowledge is that it teaches us how to have sex...well, nature does that pretty well. Even the girl who knew so little about herself that she didn't know why her period happened or what a manhood looked like knew how to get it on if the time came.

EDIT: On the subject of the child porn, I have to agree not just because I'm in the age range. It's legal for kids within a certain age range to have sex if they're within so many years of age to each other, but they can't pass a few naughty pictures? Yes, it should be illegal to distribute it (not the "show your best bud" distribute, the "put everyone in school in the FWD box" distribute) and especially sell it or display it. Really shouldn't be illegal for minors that can consent to sex to consent to raunchy pictures as well.

[AWwrgwy]

Personally, i dont sext. But alot of my friends do. Some of them even start fwd's of naked pics of girls in our school.

Herein lies the problem.  Pure naive stupidity.  Some girl is going to send a picture to an immature twit.  What's he going to do? 

"Hey dudes, look what I got"

wrongway

[MrRiplEy[H]]

I run a keylogger, I know every keystroke my 14 yr old daughter makes on the computer. I know every single website she goes to. I know who she emails.

I use this one: (except I paid for the more comprehensive version)

http://www.download.com/Free-KGB-Key-Logger/3000-2162_4-10357898.html

I busted her one time after she had googled for *naked boys*. She tried to deny it until I showed her the evidence, date...time.....screen shot....

She knows I use some sort of software to keep track of her activities but has no idea what it is or how to access it. We haven't had a single problem since.

I respect the privacy of my kids more than that. Watch out your kid may just sue you one day. I'm not kidding.

It's an another thing to teach them what to do and to spy every keystroke they make. If I was a teenager I'd do something really nasty just to rebel against that kind of totaliarism at home. *hint* 

[Babalonian]

You crazy kids.


And yes, comming from personal experience, parents being restrictive about some (or all) grown-up things with their kids so that they don't face it and learn how to properly deal with it before they're off in the world and completely on their own means they will be unprepared for it.  Sex, drugs and money are the three things parents should be open with their kids and make sure they understand (and part of that understanding is making sure they know that they can come to you when they need help, and that they should because you will help).

[68Wooley]

I feel sorry for kids these days. The digital age makes it so much harder to cover your tracks. GPS in cellphones, keyloggers etc etc.

In my day, there was only two things you had to worry about:

• Where to hide the Haddows bag when trying to get a child fare on the train home
• Where to hide your nudey mags so your dad  / big brother didn't nick them (although as it turns out, big brother was probably in to a different kind  ).

[dkff49]

wasn't going to post here but, what the hell.

My feelings are as follows:


First of all it has already been said that the solution starts long before they have access to these devices. You need to teach them right from wrong when they are younger, but that is not always going to work.It gives them a decent start but there are many more factors that come into play that can overcome all the hard work you have put in over those first years.

Secondly, "spying" on your kids is not necessarily a bad thing as long as the information obtained is handled in a reasonable manner. Yelling at your teen is not going to help, trust me I was very rebellious against my mother as a teen. The more she yelled the more I went out and continued doing things to make her yell. You need to use this information as a method of knowing which things need to be revisited or to let you know if there is anything you missed or did not know of when bringing up your child.

Thirdly, scare them. Though this is not 100% effective it does help out in many cases. Showing pictures of diseases and them hearing stories of teen pregnancy and how tough it is are all good things. The only thing here is make it informative and not you talking down to them, your tone will make or break this type of activity.

Finally, be honest with them and make sure they know they can tell you anything. Don't just tell them, show them with your actions and your ability to listen without judging (as a parent this is also your job). You can find out so much more about your teen/child by listening to them than you can through spying. You need to keep a good relationship, not just as a disciplinarian but also as a shoulder, and sometimes you need to be a friend. In my opinion a parent will be easier to talk to than your child's friends are (to your child/teen).


just my take on this particular subject

[zoozoo]

I could see how that could be considered sexual harassment. It's a bit of a dog act to do that, so I could understand someone taking action about that. Even if it wasn't legal action, just school action.

But a couple of chicks sending pictures of their bee-stings to their boyfriends? Naahhhhh.

You guys need to reign your justice system in and turf the Oprah Winfrey attitude.

"Harden the F -ck up" should be the new motto of your justice system. It would be way better.

Come to think of it, my justice system should change its motto to that too, it's turning into yours.

Some guy sued a council for $80 000 for not putting up a 'slippery when wet' sign on a dirt road.

It was raining, he didn't slow down for a corner and what do you think happened? What a tosser.

He ballsed up and it was entirely his fault. Did he think that wet dirt would somehow be more grippy? What a bender. I can't believe the judge didn't get up, climb down from the chair and punch him right in the face. What a joke.

He should have been told to piss off and given a massive fine for being a avacado and wasting everyone's time.

That would have been justice.

Yes if the image is spread around i would consider it harrasment.

[stroker71]

My thoughts on this as I haven't read all the replies: 

If your having this trouble with your teen age child you have failed as a parent!

[oakranger]

My thoughts on this as I haven't read all the replies: 

If your having this trouble with your teen age child you have failed as a parent!

There more than a parent that has failed.  It the fact that kids have way to much accese to technology that most parents can't keep up of what is out there.

[Enker]

If you a parent and your kids have a cell phone or access to the computer, do you know what they are doing?  There is a increase phenomenon of kids using their cell phones and computers to send photos and videos of them self nude.  It is known as “sexting.” It is a problem that society is having trouble dealing with.
There are serious consequents of kids behaving like this.  At worst, they are charge for child pornography and could send somebody eals in jail who had nothing to do with it.  So check there cell phone, email, chat lines and any other technology that they can send pix. 

You do realize that we teenagers only let you folk onto these things when they are going out of style? Also, it is only big phenomenon when the media/local news station picks up on it?

[OOZ662]

Thirdly, scare them. Though this is not 100% effective it does help out in many cases. Showing pictures of diseases and them hearing stories of teen pregnancy and how tough it is are all good things. The only thing here is make it informative and not you talking down to them, your tone will make or break this type of activity.

I totally agree here, except there has to be truth in it. Scaring them away with things that really can happen to them is much more effective than telling them oral sex will make them pregnant. I can see why a girl I know was told that, but it made her all the more upset and betrayed when she found out they lied to her, then began wondering what other sexual things were fairytales...luckily I bombarded her with book-style information before she went to find someone's pants to steal.

[dkff49]

I totally agree here, except there has to be truth in it. Scaring them away with things that really can happen to them is much more effective than telling them oral sex will make them pregnant. I can see why a girl I know was told that, but it made her all the more upset and betrayed when she found out they lied to her, then began wondering what other sexual things were fairytales...luckily I bombarded her with book-style information before she went to find someone's pants to steal.

I actually forgot to put that in there. Mostly because I forget that there are many parents who lie to their children because it is easier than explaining the truth.

thanks for mentioning that. as far as I am concerned it is never a good idea to lie to your children. this kind of goes back to the trust part of our discussion.

I think about it this way. Do you trust someone who has lied to you? Then why should your children trust you if you lie to them?

[1pLUs44]

Yes if the image is spread around i would consider it harrasment.

if the image is spread around, I would probably call it (if I were the sender, oh, and I can't send/receive picture texts   ) getting my bellybutton whooped by her dad.