My mindset is sort of like when Im training in the military or how I used to practice for Lacrosse "Train like your actually fighting a war" "Practice how you play". Make it hard, try to fly against people better then you, take on people from a disadvantage.
Are you saying that you would fight a war deliberatly making it harder for yourself? I'm sure that's not what you meant but I want you to consider what you are actually saying here. In training you simulate war, you make it hard, your drill instructors will replace the combat stress with other kinds of stress to see how you work under pressure and to force yourself to find out. Ok if you have military background I'm sure you know all this.
The thing is, in war you want to make it as easy as possible for yourself because you and your buddies are putting your lives at stake. You don't want to take any risks whatsoever if you can avoid it.
Training is the opposite of war, but still without unnecessary risks.
I think it's important to make the honest distinction between the two very different situations, I'm not sure why you don't here. AH is still just a game and people must be allowed to play the way they consider is fun. Skill has in that sense little to do with it. Skill also has little to do with score. I respect a skilled pilot and can tell in most cases within seconds whether I'm up against a skilled stick or not. Many "skilled" and/or talented pilots/players underestimate the importance of SA though which is totally crucial both in the MA but also during FSOs and other historically based events.
The same can be said of teamwork. Why do AH players think that skill is all solo and has nothing to do with the team? Pilots in WW2 lived and died with their buddies. We do the same here but few seem to actually realize that. Numbers matter, flying smart is part of the equation. Talent can get you a long way but if you don't use your brain you're not worth whatever aircraft you fly.
Just a humble contribution to the thread. Flame away.