When you got shot down in a way you don't like, which one are you?
examples from one situation:
complainer - All you can do is cherry pick when I'm engaged, you are fighting the wrong way.
excuser - You had a better starting advantage so you didnt really win.
accepter - Nice shot S! [name].
1)Human nature strangely is programed to continue doing what is being complained about the more it is complained about. So if we complain surely all we will do is encourage the enemy to kill us that way again. Complainers are usualy losing their own fights before they even start through looking for ways to claim disadvantage. It's easy to wind up someone who complains at you, it's not even a challenge infact. Complaining has always been a failed enterprise in large societies of different minds.
2)Excuse the kill, find a reason why it was not fair or it was not a true test of our defeated self. All this does is generally makes yourself feel sheepish and feel a need to keep talking. You can recognise an excuser a mile away as 20 minutes after the fight they will still be typing detailed flight AARs onto ch200 to apparently no one.
3)Accept whatever happened and give some fun to the player who killed you by sending them a salute. You might even find that saluting a person who HO'ed you would result in them saying 'Nah, I had to ho, nice flying' or some such. It doesnt have to be all roses and kisses tea party land, just acknowledge the event and move on. Sometimes you wont feel the need to salute a person but with acceptance it is easy to say nothing at all.
Saying nothign at all has a far greater possitive impact on the arena than complaining or making excuses. With acceptance can come humour, from almost any situation. With acceptance, the spitefull rivalries of complaint and excuse become respectfull rivalries with far more to gain in feelings of accomplishment or loss. Acceptance does not mean taking it lying down. It means not wasting time trying to change the past.
Obviously most people will have found themself in all three of those conditions at one time or another. No one is perfect and growing up takes time. One thing is sure though, the older we get the easier acceptance becomes, of all things. Everyone is different and three catagories does not cover human psychology at all. But it is a basic mould of three behaviour patterns that dominate any hot blooded society.So what are ya, complainer, excuser or accepter?
