I guess that in the end some people like to play this game by a set of chivalric rules particularly when they apply to others and not themselves (hence it is fine to pick or jump another player, but the not okay to get personally vulched on runway). Others like to play as though it is a shhhhhhhh, wait for it....can it be......a war game. Personally I don't know where anyone gets the second idea. After all we fly around in WWII planes of our favorite country and generally bomb, shoot and destroy everything we come across, but oh, well. Apparently some people view this game as a noble exercise where two great white steeds contest in epic encounters where the rules of the marques de queensbury are rigidly followed.
Personally, I fight (badly), die (often) and expect no quarter to be given and will give none in return. I don't like to die (in fact I secretly want to be uber) but I accept it as part of my learning curve. If I get picked I should have better SA, if I get out turned I need to learn how not to be, if I get out scissored I need to learn how to win the scissors fight, on and on and on and on. I can accept most things in this game, but I get really tired of listening to the constant whining about how so and so got killed unfairly. Maybe it is just me, but I see no such thing as fair or not fair in this game. I try not to HO, but I have and will again, I hate being vulched, but I will not give you the field, I hate to lose, but I lose often. Above all however, I try to fight fairly and well and respect the other players, but where I lose respect is when they whine about how other people play this game.
Sorry about the rant! See you all tonight - you will probably be killing me, but if you do, I will not whine about it even if I get mad about dying (again).