I.E. no argument can be made for accuracy when one set of flaps can deploy 3x faster at 1/6 their full flap deflection
While another aircraft is limited to 1.3x faster at 1/6 it's full deflection (when their relative deflection ranges are very similar) because it is all force related and the forces are the same.
That is not correct. Different aircraft have different mechanisms. Some can withstand very large forces (P-51 as an example), and others cannot. Even if aircraft have the same wing and flap dimensions, forces on internal structures can be hugely different depending on how those internal structures are designed. They are not all similar. Likewise, not all aircraft have the same top speed, same stall speed, same g limit, same Vne, same ability to handle high-load carrier landings, and so on.
So the situation that exists is that the force loads that are generated by the same airspeeds, and air density, and degrees of measurement of deflection are treated differently because of the lack of documentation that is not at all a factor. Not at all a factor in the forces being represented, or in the ability for anyone to figure out the limits. I.E. htc is missing nothing required to figure out the true limits. The resulting incorrect representation in the game is simply a choice by HTC.
No, you are lacking documentation. HTC probably has documentation that lists the deployment speeds. You are arguing that they should disregard that in favor of your preferences and your incorrect idea that all flaps should be able to deploy at the same speeds, regardless of interior mechanism and many other factors (such as pitch moment, for example).
Not finding any reports of overspeed damage supports . . .
It doesn't support anything. No data on X > Y doesn't mean that X < Y. X could still be > Y, = Y, or < Y -- you don't know.
At some point airflow over surfaces (consequences of TAS) becomes more of a limiting factor that resistance forces. (Consequences of IAS) at least for a while (VMAX/CSF) this is one of the situations where different types of trim systems have different consequences real world wise. Why flaps and trim would not recover a compressing 38 and may recover a compressing ME-109 or FW-190.
Outside of compressiblity, all trim works about the same -- it changes the zero-force point. In compressibility, there are many factors at work with regard to how the plane handles. Trim does in some cases work differently in compressibility between trim tabs and moving the horizontal stabilizer. This is certainly true between the 109 and the P-38 (which in compressibility has the tail in a compressibility stall as well and so trim tabs have no effect). However, do you know that in AH, in a vertical dive in compressibility, that you can pull a Bf 109 out of it with up trim but you can't do that in a P-38? So, in AH, that works correctly after all.