It was weird, I would get discoed for a month, progressively getting worse almost each evening, finally getting discoed every few minutes to maybe twice in a minute.  Tyfoo suggested  to bypass my router and see what happened, since I had installed a new dsl modem.  So I bypassed the router as the modem and router are both on my desk.  I played for hours then after bypassing the router.  I had sent in a complaint to my isp about my problem.  The next night my speed seems to be a bit faster, and haven't been disco'd using my router.  I'm thinking they must have checked and did something. 
 Also a tech wants to come out and check things.  I may end up with a spare modem, but the old one I was using was getting pretty hot, and the new one is running barely warm.  I dunno, Im not a tech person and I maybe should have called them first, but a couple years ago when I had a problem they didn't want to help at all.  Anyway I may get fixed up here in a day or two and be ok.