Scraping off the usual steaming pile of unfounded conceit, what you are doing Arlo is proceeding under three limiting misassumptions and hiding behind prejudice.
Firstly:
"I'm pissed at people taking shortcuts in killing me or trying to kill me in Aces High while I took valuable time learning ACM…
They DO NOT kill me with a HO. That is entirely the point which you strangely shrink away from. Never in a merge and in the extremely rare case of any other face-to-face arrangment I have failed to generate enough separation and that is my responsibility (and often times a compliment if you think about it). It is my job to stay out of an opponent's or opponents' gunsight(s) while working them into mine. I have no need to complain, whine or get pissed because I do not suffer losses to this technique, I exploit it and kill those that try it if they do not immediately dive and run to the nearest airbase without even turning. Because I took the trouble to invest in better ACM.
That I know how to do something you do not (or at least did not when you faced Titanic) is a simple statement of fact not arrogance. It does not matter how you present or discuss this when dealing with people who are so entrenched in their self-protecting prejudices that they automatically resort to attempted name-calling, and character assassination (essentially), instead of considering that those saying so
might have a point. It's apparently just far more pleasurable and safer to start projecting allegations of elitism, arrogance and condescension.
Secondly, that I need or want players of AH to fly my way or accept my views or preferences.
This is woefully inaccurate. I fly alone, in a middle-spectrum plane and I like it that it's a jungle out there. HO yourself silly if you like. Up over and over and over again playing chicken at a closing velocity twice your own with a similarly front-armed aircraft and have at it. Rinse and repeat for years until disillusionment starts to creep in and decide resolutely in the meantime that anyone who says anything critical is employing ‘shame policing’ or ‘virtue signalling’ or whatever funky new term you can resort to which justifies your ubernoobness, laziness, ignorance or the instant gratification-centric
bypassing of an essential point upon which the game is built. Then eventually skulk away to play a point and click game berating the toxic community of AH what done me wrong. Guv'nor.
Thirdly:
Unfortunately, Aces High will need people that will contribute or it will perish.
Your decision, your call.
I do acknowledge that you have posted in wisdom and levelheaded consideration. I would in general agree. However I'm presently more reminded of the anecdote of Benny 'The Jet' Urquidez being once asked how he resolved being a Christian while at the same time beating the living s**t out of all-comers in street fights. He said something like: it has troubled me for a long time. Eventually I decided God had sent them to me to teach them a lesson. I assume he wasn't talking about kickboxing
