I have never understood this gripe. I've fallen prey to my fair share of HOs in the couple months that I've been here, but I always keep one thing in mind. It takes TWO PLANES to create a HO situation. Sure, maybe one guy is pushing the issue more than the other, but it's a legitimate, albeit mostly unrealistic, tactic.
You're being chased by a couple bandits and suddenly someone comes at you head on, playing chicken with you? Imagine that! What better way to get you to turn before you're ready, thus allowing his countrymen to get a better shot at you.
Someone comes at you HO you've got two choices, take him (or her) out or avoid. If you do neither thn it's your own dang fault.