When you come back, look up some of these folks, they are more than willing to help you learn...it'll take time...
As far as rude goes..I know how it goes and my advice to you is to tone down a bit, don't describe yourself to these people don't talk about your age or what you look like or the fact that you are female..
it's a shame that you can't just be yourself but you'll fine that you'll be able to at least play the game and have some amount of fun..
The more you can get away with being Joe player who's learning to fly, the more honest people will be with you sadly enough. Them knowing you are female never helps anything and in fact can severely get in your way with people following you around privating you and so forth..picking a gender neutral name helps as well btw....if they find out you are female later it's not as bad cause by then you know who your friends are.
G'luck and when you come back, like I said, look up some of these good folk and get some help with your flying.
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