Beethoven's father treated the young Beethoven in much the same way as you describe Dowding. Not sure about Beethoven's sexual preference, but either way, he didn't turn out to be a freak, and is highly respected because of his accomplishments.
Michael Jackson phenomenon is pathetic...seems to me like vanity is the main culprit, exacerbated by the corrupting powers of unlimited amounts of money, choosing the wrong mentors in the music industry, and probably drug usage.
The guy seems to be mentally ill, that's for sure. A casuality of fame and fortune? Might not have turned out that way otherwise. Who knows.
This is a good example of why humility is so important to the long term well being of artists, musicians, etc... Though I'm not a fan of MJ, he does have a lot of talent. Ultimately, he is the one responsible for how he'll be remembered.
I suppose if blame has to be directed away from the personal actions of any individual who is highly successful in the music industry, it should be remembered the mafia often becomes a factor where lots of money is involved. Perhaps not so much nowadays, but in MJ's formative years they were alive and well, no doubt demanding more and more outrageous performance from the agents and business managers to give the audience what they want, to sell tickets and make more money.
Of course, this is just a theory, but it seems plausible to me. Can't say I have sympathy for the likes of Michael Jackson. If he has broken any laws concerning children, he should be arrested by the Police.
Les