To Minotaur. Fallen and Yes, to you too dakota...
Gentlemen:
Like you two I was disturbed by the autocratic tone of dakota's posting, and I wanted to make sure that it included me before I replied.
Meanwhile, to learn where he is coming from, I read everything that dakota has posted on this forum,, visited his web site and read the information he volunteered about himself when he registered on the forum.
I am greatly impressed,now understand the reason for the tone of his posting and am no longer offended.
I see that each of you, in your own way have responded to his offensive posting, so here is mine....
All four of us have one thing in common...We are interested in seeing Aces High succeed.
The differences in opinion led, in the case of we three, to some strong expressions of our individual opinions and some intellectual sparring matches where we each threw a few verbal punches to ease the pressure, and , in some cases to bolster weaknesses in our arguments.
Mino, we had fun with our choice of "handles" didn't we!
Actually, Mino, we were both on the same side in defense of Shacker's very professional offerings, that's why I was puzzled by your(to me, unwarranted attack)
Fallen, we both needed to discover that there were grey areas between our black and white stands,your second posting caused me to evaluate my thinking.
Now, dakota...
Like you, I am of a volatile temperament, so I can understand your jumping in to the discussion, but I must admit that the same volatility caused me to react negatively to your posting.
My gut reaction?...
Who is this guy to tell me "That's enough!" and to chew me out?
*I* decide what is enough!, and NO-BODY treats me with disrespect!
So what then, do I learn about dakota, when I look into the matter??
First, he is a successful businessman, and his business is a class act. This tell me that he is intelligent, self disciplined,confident and idealistic.
Does this give him the right to be disrespectful and to butt in? ....No way!
But it does explain why he is motivated to do so.
Looking further, I find that he is an executive chef...aha! Here is why he, though a leader, hasn't learned how to lead those who do NOT have to follow!
I have known several chefs. They must deal with many types of people in their work, and in a Chef's domain he is the UNDISPUTED boss...
He HAS to be, to meet the constant pressures of producing high quality food,consistantly, in varying quantity and sufficient variety, dispite continual deadlines...and do it with workers of varying degrees of skill.
Workers of varying degrees of skill needing varying amounts of training and supervision.
Who also may be of temperaments ranging from apathetic to highly skilled;some motivated to the point where they believe they should supplant the boss.

The most gifted and successful Chefs ARE usually autocratic and have no time to mince words or "sit down and discuss".
It goes with the territory.
So now dakota, I am no longer resentful, for I reallise that you overlooked the fact that we are not in your kitchen, and do not have to listen to a word you say, unless you convince us first that what you have to say is valid.
There are more effective ways to lead or convince people than with a bull whip.
I first learned this as a leader in the infantry when it was pointed out to me that a leader is out ahead of his men....and a bullet can come from either direction!
Those you lead must be convinced that it is in their best interests to follow, even in a totalitarian environment like the military or your kitchen.
As you no doubt know, one disgruntled employee can ruin you, dakota, if they become resentful of your lack of consideration for them.
I need not tell you the many ways your restauraunts' reputations can be ruined by just one incident of tainted or ill prepared food.
I strongly resisted the urge to make a scathing reply to your disrespectful, untactful post.
Instead, I hope that I have figuratively sat down with you and we can now reason together.
I believe we all share the common aim of helping Aces High to become the ultimate game/simulation we wish it to be.
We need to work together.
You made a mistake in thinking that you could bludgeon us into doing your bidding, when you had not established your right to lead us.
By being insulting and condescending you came off instead, as a person who was massaging his ego at our expense, rather than as someone who had valid points to make.
Your posting accomplished nothing except alienating us and possibly causing us to reject your ideas in the future.
However,your demonstrated capable performance in other areas,have proven that you have the potential to contribute much toward achieving our common aims for this simulation.
Would you like to sit down with us again, and present your viewpoints in a more respectful, reasonable way?
I can assure you that I will be receptive, for I recognise your expertise in accomplishing what you have in your businesses... Those are no checkered tablecloth, Mom and pop spaghetti joints there!

You may rest assured that should I ever be in your area, I will not hesitate to bring guests to either of your establishments with full confidence that they will be pleased and impressed,... and I would hope to mention proudly that I know the chef!
With cordiality and respect to all.
Goombah
[This message has been edited by Goombah (edited 12-21-1999).]