Originally posted by Gremlin
That is so sad.
Come on... do I tell you your views are sad? What is that supposed to accomplish? I dont mean to make an example, but I cant help to notice that the 'Cavemen Conservatives' are making constructive arguments explaining their viewpoint and the 'Enlightened Liberals' are basically retorting with variations of "Youre dumb!"
When in a friendship are you supposed to tell someone that your gay? The first time you meet. 'Hi my name is x and im gay'. I certainly dont go around flaunting my heterosexuality so why should gays have to?
I dont flaunt my sexuality either. Its rude - if you recall one of my previous posts, I stated that I didnt want parades clogging up the streets. That basically works out to I dont want them flaunting it. There isnt a set time limit on when one should 'tell' another he or she is gay, but I cant help to think that someone could fool a 'friend' so completely. My point is that is an issue important enough, like sexual orientation, is lied about, I wouldnt really have wanted to be friends with the individual to begin with.
If i was gay and happened to befriend you. your very attitude would be good enough reason to not mention it to you.
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So Im not allowed to choose my friends based on sexual orientation, but youre allowed to choose freinds based on their convictions?
The better question would be - if you were gay and I told you I was accepting of it, then you caught me making fun or you or bashing on you behind your back, allowing you to draw the conclusion that I lied to you about my acceptance, would you remain friends with me?
Anyway whats it to you what your friend does with his/her sex life? I mean it aint like your being asked to watch!! [/b]
Its not about watching or whether or not its my business. I just dont feel confortable around gays. Im sorry, I was born that way - maybe if we march on Washington we can have 'Homophobe' replaced with 'Birth-Caused Homosexual Uncomfortability Syndrome.' Woe is me.
You know I dislike the idea of homosexuality probably as much as you do however I wouldnt stop being friends with some1 just for that. I value my friends for what they add to me and other people, not for what they do behind closed doors. Maybe if I found out that they were criminals or murderers I would have to end the friendship. Being gay certainly doesnt come into that category. [/B]
I value my friends as well, and I dont have any gay friends because I dont value gay companionship. In your words, they wouldnt be adding anything to me, they would be taking something away. Im sure there are gay people out there who are fantastic human beings, Im not disputing that, but I just dont agree with their lifestyle choice and I will not associate with them if I dont have to because of it.
In mind mind, thats no different from saying I wont associate with a coke head. I lost one friend because of drugs - tried to help him - to no avail. At that point in his life, drugs were more important to him that his friends. He would steal money from his freinds, threaten vilolence - he became a different person. Now hes a complete waste of life and I dont associate with him.
Since gays maintain that they cant be helped - in fact that there isnt even a problem, I wouldnt even bother. Sorry bud, Im sure your still a great guy, I just cant look you in the eye anymore and respect you knowing that you were bent over a chair last night.