Author Topic: need some advice about my instructor (Read 8933 times)

kesolei · « **Reply #285 on:** October 04, 2003, 11:08:43 AM »

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Originally posted by eskimo2
We are all rooting for you!
(And you're turning us into a bunch of women! I think I'll just go buy one of those romance novels now.)

I didn't say it! I've been reading this thread for a few days and MAN what an eye opener! I think that this should be printed off and distributed with the 'Book' all women get that list the 'rules'. "Insight into the male mind," or somethin!

Some of you guys got real good advice, and the rest of you guys... listen to the guys who know what they're talking about! Got a few good laughs throughout this thread. You guys are great.

MIA- Good luck. Go with your gut, best advice anyone can give you. Don't think about it too much. If it *feels* like the right time to say something; say it. If it don't? Then.. well, keep yer mouth shut.

The situation right now could be read two ways; #1- She kind of likes you too, but loves her fiance and really doesn't want to screw that up. She's not sure if she should follow through with the feelings, that's why she brought her girlfriend along. The girlfriend could meet you that way, talk to you a little.. get a reading on ya, and then they could talk later. Most likely she wants her girlfriend to tell her that she should stay with the fiance, there's just a little bit of her saying.. eh, but.. but... #2- She brought the girlfriend along to avoid an ugly scene; chances are she knows that you kind of like her and such and is afraid that's what you're going to bring up. If a friend should suddenly show up tonight too while you're talking, I'd go with that one. She doesn't want you to embarass yourself.

That's *my* take on things.

Silat · « **Reply #286 on:** October 04, 2003, 11:15:34 AM »

Youngman,

Let me get this straight:

She says: "Im getting married?"

And you want to ask her out?

FUHGET ABOUT IT!!!
Leave her alone. Buy the latest Penthouse and get over it. Something is not right about you thinking of breaking up her marriage plans when you dont even know her.

Curval · « **Reply #287 on:** October 04, 2003, 11:17:21 AM »

Dude take the hint...she spent like 3 hours talking about her wedding. That "should" tell you someting.

mia389 · « **Reply #288 on:** October 04, 2003, 11:25:30 AM »

Its gonna be fun reading her tonight. First its all gonna be work or school. When were done with the books its gonna get fun. Ill think of posts from every action she takes. hehe this thread has gotten me little more prepared. From last time we met, I got the feeling no matter what I say to her, I dont think its gonna be bad as I think. Just might be "goofy" feeling first couple of mins. after, but if anything, we will make good friends. Ive questioned myself after yesterday If I wanna get involved. Maybe her talking about her wedding was a hint to not say anything lol. I still gotta say something about that damn email though. Think Ill just tell her. See how she reacts. Ive got plans for whatever she says. I know I could impress her with passing my checkride nextweek hehe. 3 guys from my class have all failed it so far lol. Im the next one to take it now. She told me to break that trend. I pretty sure Ill pass though, shes really drilled me hard on watermelon and my flying has been great. One of the guys didnt know what a blue airport, on the sectional was. lol thats another reason why I wanna keep my instructor. I know theres some pretty awful ones out there.

Oh ya, Thanks guys for all the advice. This thread has had good advice and has been funny. Ill be checking it quite often again since I have a monitor.

mia389 · « **Reply #289 on:** October 04, 2003, 11:27:33 AM »

I didnt say I was gonna break up her mariage now. Was about a half hour not 3 hours. Other 2 1/2 hours we just bull****ted.

Hortlund · « **Reply #290 on:** October 04, 2003, 11:35:41 AM »

I dunno about the rest of you guys, but personally I always back off when I see a ring. I suppose its a mix of respect for her and the guy, and also something that enables me to look myself in the mirror every morning without asking what the hell Im doing.

rpm · « **Reply #291 on:** October 04, 2003, 11:57:49 AM »

1 small bit of advice...avoid the "few Beers" to get the courage to talk. Women definitely do not like drunks.

dracken1 · « **Reply #292 on:** October 04, 2003, 12:10:55 PM »

i had a male glider instuctor who strongly suggested that i could obtain my solo licience easily if i was to err, meet him at a location of his choosing etc etc. (i'm female).
so if i had done what he wanted then maybe i would have got my solo cert earlier, but then maybe i would also be dead by now due to poor training.

Martlet · « **Reply #293 on:** October 04, 2003, 12:13:28 PM »

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Originally posted by Hortlund
I dunno about the rest of you guys, but personally I always back off when I see a ring. I suppose its a mix of respect for her and the guy, and also something that enables me to look myself in the mirror every morning without asking what the hell Im doing.

I just got rid of all my mirrors instead.

aknimitz · « **Reply #294 on:** October 04, 2003, 12:57:28 PM »

Rings schmings. Its a dog eat dog world. If the woman is married, ok - maybe she's off limits. But whos to say she is happily married?

If she aint married yet, whos to say she isnt maknig the wrong decision?

Mia, I like the approach of asking if she is sure she wants to get married, ask her if she's nervous, etc. Depending on responses to those, easy your way into your email.

Nim

Hortlund · « **Reply #295 on:** October 04, 2003, 01:19:51 PM »

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Originally posted by aknimitz
Rings schmings. Its a dog eat dog world. If the woman is married, ok - maybe she's off limits. But whos to say she is happily married?

If she aint married yet, whos to say she isnt maknig the wrong decision?

Well, Id say this pretty much sums up the difference in morals between you and me.

eskimo2 · « **Reply #296 on:** October 04, 2003, 01:32:50 PM »

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Originally posted by Hortlund
I dunno about the rest of you guys, but personally I always back off when I see a ring. I suppose its a mix of respect for her and the guy, and also something that enables me to look myself in the mirror every morning without asking what the hell Im doing.

So, if when you met your wife, had she been engaged to someone else, and felt even a bit queezey about her engagement, you would have walked away? Even knowing, and feeling, that she was the one?

eskimo

aknimitz · « **Reply #297 on:** October 04, 2003, 01:39:18 PM »

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Well, Id say this pretty much sums up the difference in morals between you and me.

Well, I dunno anything about your morals. And simply because you will not approach a woman that is engaged does not tell me anything about your morals.

Whose to say that this woman is not going to be the love of his life for the rest of their lives? My wife was dating someone else when we met. Now granted, it was a no brainer for her because I am simply the man of all men ... but if I hadnt pursued her because of her boyfriend, then I would never have married her (obviosuly).

Sometimes people just need a little coaxing to get out of relationships they have no business being in in the first place. There is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling this one out to see how she really feels about this guy and the marrage. If she's happy and serious ... abandon ship. If she is uncertain and insecure, investigate further.

Nim

Hortlund · « **Reply #298 on:** October 04, 2003, 01:50:41 PM »

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So, if when you met your wife, had she been engaged to someone else, and felt even a bit queezey about her engagement, you would have walked away? Even knowing, and feeling, that she was the one?

eskimo

I would have walked away yeah. Heck I have done just that once. However I am of the opinion that there is not just one "the one" but several potential that we all meet.

If she feels "queezey" about her engagement, then she prolly should not get married. But Im not gonna be a part of her stay/leave-equation. At least not intentionally.

Sandman · « **Reply #299 on:** October 04, 2003, 01:53:07 PM »

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I dunno about the rest of you guys, but personally I always back off when I see a ring.

I've received more propositions while wearing a wedding band than I ever did without it.