need some advice about my instructor

[Hortlund]

Originally posted by aknimitz
Well, I dunno anything about your morals. And simply because you will not approach a woman that is engaged does not tell me anything about your morals.

Well, to be honest I didnt mean it in a derogatory way. Its just that you and me see things differently when it comes to women who are married/engaged. I back off. Period. Both because I think it is wrong and disrespectful not to, but also because I *try* to stay clear of certain sins. If they are married, I have no business whatsoever to meddle with that. If they are engaged, its "not as bad", but it is bad enough...imo.

[capt. apathy]

Whose to say that this woman is not going to be the love of his life for the rest of their lives?

it's possable, but I heard a statistc the other day (I can't remember the exact source though, I do remember it was one I feltwas fairly reliable, but like I said I can't find it).

but anyway, it said that of relationships that start while one or both where already in a serious relationship (married, engaged, or living together more than 3 years) the % that make it last more than 5 years is 5%.

so, the odds that she'd be the love of his life are about 5%,  the other 95% of the time the person who sees something better and jumps ship is likely to do it again.


if I was interested in something serious I'd only go for it if she showed up not wearing a ring and the conversation starts out with  "so I broke up with my fiance today".

[aknimitz]

I *try* to stay clear of certain sins.

Well now what the hell is the fun in that? I guess its a religious thing, which of course I wouldnt understand

Nim

[Thorns]

Don't you think Mia is playing with fire?  There is a fiance lurking about, and do you think he will be understanding if Mia and his instructor get together?  Hmm, I doubt it.

Nim, did you give Mia your phone number in case he needs legal advice?  I would hate to see, "Fiance sends student pilot into orbit, news at 11:00 pm"    

Thorns

[Dago]

Don't you think Mia is playing with fire? There is a fiance lurking about, and do you think he will be understanding if Mia and his instructor get together? Hmm, I doubt it.
 

Nothing personal mind you, but maybe Mia actually has a set of nads and is willing to take a risk to try and achieve something he desires.  How sad it would be living life afraid to take a chance, afraid of shadows.  Mia is showing some guts, risking rejection, risking pissing off a fiance.

Go Mia!



dago

[Creamo]

Im betting she has nads as well.

[Sox62]

If she does dump her fiance for you mia,who's to say won't do the same to you later?If she ends up willing to do it to him,she may do the same to you.

Just sayin'

[aknimitz]

Sox, worthy point. However, even if he saves some woman from marrying the wroong man, I think it was a move worth taking. If she's the type of woman that is shaky on the onset, she's certainly to be the type of woman that will be shaky into the future. Better that her fiance finds out now, as opposed to ten years from now.

Nim

[Thorns]

Dago, thanks for the reply for Mia.  I sent the question to get an observation.   I wish the best for Mia.   The newspaper is full of people who had great nads, but over-stepped their boundries, and I'm sure a lot of their friends and relatives were very sad of the ending.  Now I'm not afraid of taking risks, God knows all about me, but I alway keep my eyes wide open.  I calculate the risk.  Infatuation is blinding, and maybe he should go out with his instructors girlfriend, and possibly along with the instuctor and her fiance.  His instructor is the key, and didn't she talk about her wedding for 3 hours?  My gut reaction, she is just a nice friendly person, easily her personna can be taken for affection.

Thorns

[rpm]

It's good to see so much chivalry amost this group of guys, but allow me to interject something...Women cheat. ALL women. Married, engaged, dating, ect. If something better comes along in a woman's eyes they WILL gravitate in that direction like white on rice.
We don't know jack about her fiance. He could be a slug and mia a definite step up. Unless she comes right out and says "I'm not interested" the game is still on. Women....the chase is 90% of the fun. Of course the other 10% is interesting as well.

[mia389]

heh met with her tonight and it went pretty good. It was mostly intruction and alittle bit of flirting. I still havnt said anything and still not sure if, or when Im gonna. She let me listen to a voice mail on her phone her boyfriend left today. It was horriable. He said Hi ***** when are you gonna come and make some food Im hungry. LOL she was pissed. I dont blame her, but I asked her, "so you really wanna marry him huh," I had a big watermelon grin on my face hehe. She quickly changed the subject. That and other hints have me thinking shes thinking about what shes really doing. I also think of her talking about the wedding for a half hour though too. For now Im gonna be her friend for alittle longer and feel her out. I dont think its time to let her know yet. I wont know when it will be, it will just come out.

[medicboy]

Maybe she is talking about the wedding so much because she wants someone to tell her its the wrong thing to do.  If she is only 23 I'll tell her right now it's wrong and will never work.  Too young.  Bring it up in a hypothetical situation or something, she already knows but wants you to say something.

[FUNKED1]

BULLPEN

[Creamo]

Animal had an elbow stinger, put me in Funkypants, please.

[ccvi]

mia, just make sure that your relationship with her does not contribute to her breaking up with her fiance.

if it happens, give her some time to be alone.