I didn't read everything but I'm going to offer my experience with Catholics.
Most of these experiences are with Mexicans BTW.
A lot of the people that I knew and hung around had Virgin Mary tattoos on them somewhere. One guy had a very cool mural on his back. But they also like to get drunk, smoke weed, talk about fornicating (nice word for ****) this girl and that girl, talk about the fighting they had done, maybe even a murder they had done, and say, 'Golly-geemit'. You could say, 'God is dead' or 'God sucks dicks' or 'Jesus wore dresses and smelled like a gnome." NO response. They might even laugh and buy you a beer. Mention the Virign Mary and things were different.
Even if you didn't say anything directly offensive, it might have even seem implied, and they would threaten to hit you, cut you, or kill you for desecrating the Virgin Mary.
I remember being in a bar with several people and one guy was talking about being wacked out of his mind the other night and screwing this girl and leaving her and she might be pregnant but he didn't care but he had a Virgin Mary tattoo on his forearm and a leather wrist band with a cross on it. I thought this a strange contraposition of belief and actions but it was typical.
Someone mentioned something about the Virgin Mary and IT was ON. Throw down right there between the pool tables. Surprised the feces out of me.
From my experience...you cannot say that Catholics dont' worship the Virgin Mary in some fashion. I'm not saying ALL Catholics do this but in my experience certainly some do.
Shrewd questions come to mind:
It seems that Catholics tend to ask the Virgin Mary for help with prayers rather the Jesus or God. Why?
Isn't God and Jesus pretty bad ass? They are GOD and the SON of GOD. Yes, Mary gave birth to Jesus. But isn't she just a vessel for the spirit of God? A subheading under 'The Big Cheese'?
When you think of the Holy Trinity do you think of God, Jesus, and the Virgin Mary? or do you think of God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit?
You don't hear about Catholics seeing the face of Jesus under an overpass and visiting it. Why?
If I go into my local grocery store I find tall more candles in glass containers with the picture of the Virgin Mary than Jesus. Why?
The Catholics that I know have the Virgin Mary tattooed on them but none have a picture of Jesus tattooed on them. Why?
I'm sorry if this offends. That is not it's intent. I've have read some of what has been said in this thread and I simply offer what I consider to be experience contrary to what has been.
My questions are also not meant as a troll or flame. These are questions that I have had for some 14 years plus and I would be curious to hear ACTUAL answers...not some defensive tripe.
Wotan, for one seems, both knowledgeable and in control of his emotions enough to answer accurately and informatively.