Originally posted by AKS\/\/ulfe
That's horsetoejam, I was raised by only my dad with no mother figure.
-SW
Sorry AKS, but it is the truth.
And please dont take it personal or anything directed at you. Heck I was raised by only my mom since dad figured he had better things to do.
Nevertheless, children need both their parents in different stages of their lives. A child goes through different periods during childhood. In these different periods, the child needs its parents differently. For example, during the first 4-6-8 months, the child, regardless of sex, needs his/her mother more than anything else. Keeping a small child away from his/her mother for more than a couple of hours causes the child to become distressed and troubled. At this point the child has not yet realized that someone who leaves the room still exists, at the same time it needs its mother both for comfort and food, and if the mother is away, the child reacts as if it had lost its mother. This is the reason why in custody cases, no matter how bad the mom is, the courts tend to seek to find a way to keep the child with its mother 90% of the time in this period.
Then comes another period for the child, 8-24 months. During this period the child starts to realize that it is a separate entity, that it is a person, separated from mom and dad. During this period it is VERY important that the child has good contact with the parent of the same sex as the child. A boy needs his dad alot during this time, while a girl needs her mom alot. During this time, naturally the other parent is important too, but the same-sex parent takes over the mother role from the first period.
And then comes the period where the child develops its own personality, where it realizes that it has a will of its own and that it actually can do what it wants even if mom or dad says no. Normally this happens when the child is between 2 yrs - 4 yrs old. This is the period where parents spend most of the days in endless power struggles with screaming children. Going to the store is a complete nightmare, especially when you are walking past the ice-cream. At night when the kids finally fall asleep, you as a parent have more often than not reached levels of exhaustion you never thought existed (trust me on this... my oldest son is in this period right now). During this period, the child is developing his own personality, and he needs to see how males and females are/interact/work. Here is where young boys need male role models, or where young girls need female role models.
Bottom line:
The child needs a mom and a dad. Same sex parents cannot give the child this. That is just some political correct BS.
