Hello Skydancer,
Many Israelis, Jewish and Arab, heartily agree with you and would like to see peaceful coexistence here. And the Palestinians I've met are decent (course, I've never been the target of an attack to this point). One of the last times I did IDF reserve duty of patrolling the border, a 19 year old Arab Bedouin tracker in the regular IDF was assigned to the vehicle. (The IDF has Jewish, Druze and Bedouin units.) Two weeks after my reserve duty was over, there was an attack on the border by Arab infiltrators, and the 19 year old Bedouin tracker was killed in the firefight. I read in the paper that he charged into the ambush, gun blazing, like we were taught in the Marines and in the IDF. So please realize that Israel is not strictly a homogeneous Jewish nation, nor is it defended only by Jews.
During Gulf War I, I had the excruciating experience of witnessing about two dozen of the 40 or so unprovoked Scuds fired from Iraq falling on Tel Aviv (as well as the highly accurate but ineffective Patriot interceptions). Many Palestinians were dancing on their roofs, watching the Scuds go by overhead. Israel made sure that the Palestinians got gas masks, just like Israeli Jews and Arabs. The elderly mother of a friend of mine was unable to cope with the increased tension of Scud missiles fired randomly at population centers and passed away due to stress.
More than ten years ago Israel changed its stance regarding an arch enemy, Yasser Arafat and his PLO, hoping for peace, and signed the Oslo Accords. One of the Israeli leaders involved, Shimon Peres, would be the man of vision you are looking for. But even Peres has said, "The Palestinians never miss an opportunity to miss an opportunity." And only about 5 years ago, Israel's PM, Barak, met Arafat and Clinton at Camp David, and put a serious offer on the table that made even Israelis on the left cringe.
For the record, in 1967, when Egypt and surrounding nations took belligerent steps against Israel, Israel struck in the Six Day War and captured the "Old City" including the Temple Mount. The Israelis immediately returned jurisdiction of the Temple Mount, the holiest of places for the Jewish people, back to the Muslim Waqf, lest there be permanent offence to the Muslim world.
Is everything perfect in Israel? Not yet, not even for a lot the Jewish population.
As far as the actual topic of this thread goes, Bozon has hit the nail on the head for Israelis.
Pray for the Peace of Jerusalem.
Cement