If you're learning to do the basics, and you're trying to take off in a heavy bomber (lanc, 100% gas and 14000lb bombs) or a heavy fighter (P47D40 with 2500lbs bombs and 10 rockets) you're learning the wrong way.
I mean that.
Until you know how to take off and land, PERIOD, you shouldn't be complicating it with an over-loaded air frame.
What do I know, eh? First time I tried to take off in this game, even after having flown several other flight sims, I loaded up a heavy fighter with all the gas, bombs, and rockets I could..... and promptly spun out trying to lift off from the ground! That was just after AH went public.
Learn with a basic fighter. Otherwise you're just learning wrong. Yes, there is a wrong way to learn things.
EDIT: Oh, and for a "basic fighter" -- taking off with no flaps is usually just as easy as taking off with flaps.