Xargos nailed it, this community doesn't hate new guys. We have been fed on a steady diet of them for years, we are used to them. We don't hate new guys, however we don't cater to them.
Not to mention that there are a ton of young kids trying out the 2 week free accounts. Granted some of them will stick around, pay for an account, get a joystick, and become part of the community. But lots don't, then show up, want to fly with a mouse, think at 14 that they are hot stuff, and expect respect.
Nope sorry, but you have to EARN that here.
The game has a TON of features all designed specifically for the new guy.
Everything from stall limiter, to the help channel.
From the Training Arena, to voice communications.
All built in, all designed to make life easier for the new guy.
AH and the community does have a fairly low tolerance for laziness, radio spamming, ego building.
Last I can never figure out why if you were a new person, you would bypass the Training arena, and jump straight into the biggest possible fight. But a fairly large portion of the new guys do just exactly that.
If you want to make it here, I'll give you a big hand up.
Before you get online, spend a week reading,
www.netaces.org, the Hitechcreations.com
and the
http://trainers.hitechcreations.com sites are the best. Period
After reading for an hour try flying some of those manuvers in offline. Stick with a basic easy to fly plane.
A6m series, Seafire or Spitfire 5.
When you do get online plan on spending a week in the TA.
Have your joystick plugged in, calibrated and working correctly in windows before you start AH.
If you have a mic, same thing, have it working in windows correctly first.
When you arrive in the TA switch sides to Bishops, and hang out at A1.
This is trainer central, this is where they hang out. (they may move to quiet location for an appointement with someone) If there is no one around, practise flying a large number of aircraft.
Start with the A6m, try a couple spitfires, perhaps a later war JP plane like the N1K, and of course the old standbys. The P51d, P38, and P47.
Accept the fact that no one flys the P51 "well" their first week in AH. Same is true of the P38, p47, 190 series.
These are not EASY aircraft to fly, they are advanced aircraft, and need advanced pilots.
Show me one pilot who when he joined the Army Air Corp was dropped into a top level fighter to learn to fly in.
Naw, didn't happen that way, they all started flying on Stearman biplanes, moved up eventually to T6's.
Same here, want a nice slow fully aerobatic plane to learn basics of turn, manuver and energy in.
Grab the D3a1 Val, and go learn it. Concentrate on the vertical. Too many new people are still stuck in 2d mode. IE North, South, East, and West. They forget ALL about UP and Down. Practise flying LOOPS! Half loops, full loops, loops going UP, loops going DOWN. That and the basics of turn, will be your foundation that all ACM builds on.
Second week in AH, go hang out in the DA, concentrate on making friends, shooting skills, same plane duels.
Film your fights so you can watch them later and find your mistakes. Just like in real life be careful what kind of friends you make.
Third week in AH, start doing sorties in Midwar or early war arena. Continue to meet and practice in the Dueling arena before heading to the wars. For one this sharpens your eyes and reflexes before going into combat.
After you have a couple of tours under your belt in midwar. Then by all means start trying sorties in latewar.
Its a bigger pond, its tougher, its harder to make new friends. But give it your best shot.

There you are, one page simple guide to how to succeed in AH as a newbe.