Waldron,
Find a squad, and find a trainer. You will learn something everyday if you decide to ask questions and listen as opposed to presuming you have a clue. Regardless of your life experience.
A large established squad will have all skill levels and personality types represented most likely. This will increase the likelyhood that you will find a squaddie that meshes with you well enough to interpret the basic things that you need to learn to be able to enter a fight somewhat aggressively with a chance to win even without every advantage while having some squaddies around to save you from some of your mistakes. I agree that it is frustrating and difficult to learn from getting clubbed at every encounter. So you need some friends.... The attitude portrayed in your post will not help you make friends in this, or any COMBAT simulation/game.... Having friends will also give you a reason to log back in even after a bad night in the Main Arena, which we all have from time to time. Have you ever even asked anyone for help?
Finally, I've replied here hoping you're not some shameless troll. If you are, well, I'm sad for you.....
Yarbles,
huh?
While some of the responses to the OP are a little over the top due to the responders' frustration with the playing style Waldron holds up as the right thing to do while in fact it is, in the minds of probably every experienced flyer in the game, the absolute wrong tact to take if you want to learn and improve at all in the AH world. Your response to them is even further to the opposite extreme...
Oh, and without ego involved, how many people would actually spend 100 hours a month in a game like this? So yes, my ego needs a little stroke every now and then! I hate dying! But I Love the fight enough to make up for it!