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Offline Gumbeau

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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #75 on: December 06, 2008, 05:08:07 PM »
A divorce nullifies said vows.

The intent on this is that one should make it known that there is a problem, do the respectable thing and get a divorce (nullify vows) before breaking them and sleeping with another.  

This lets both parties know that the relationship is over without question rather than keep quiet and slide a large knife in the back of the other.  To me, thats about as low as one can go.



Actually, divorce doesn't nullify vows. A divorce is a legal termination of a marriage contract. Marriage vows have nothing to do with the law and the law has nothing to do with the vows.

If you get married in a church there are two ceremonies taking place. One is the legal contract of marriage according to the government rules regarding civil marriage. The other is the religious marriage ceremony. Religions usually provide some sort standard marriage vow content in accordance with the belief system.

If you only have a civil ceremony there is only one marriage going on, the legal one. In a civil ceremony there isn't even a requirement for vows. It is a purely legal proceeding, like closing on a mortgage.

A divorce terminates the legal contract but it does nothing about the vows undertaken at marriage.

You speak of nullification of vows. I know the Catholic church grants annulment of marriage according to the law of the Catholic church. It basically declares that the marriage was invalid and never existed in the eyes of the church.

Catholics can be divorced legally but still married in the eyes of the church. The converse is also true.


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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #76 on: December 06, 2008, 05:11:24 PM »
The last person? Is suicide common where you live (this is a serious question, I'm not trying to make lite of the situation)?
I know several kids who have divorced parents, and they're just as normal as anyone else.

No. Not common at all. That was the 5th student to ever die at the school since it was built in 1978. 1 was killed in Iraq, 2 died of disease, and 1 was hit by a car.

I personally did not know her, but her parents getting a divorce is what put her over the edge.
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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #77 on: December 06, 2008, 06:23:41 PM »
She has made her decision.  Period.  End of story. 

Work on dealing with the decision that is already made

Musta missed the post this was in response to.
But like I said. Whatever you both decided to do. In this case she has made up your mind for you.
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« Reply #78 on: December 06, 2008, 09:21:39 PM »
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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #79 on: December 06, 2008, 11:19:25 PM »
Buddy I just pulled your November stats and if is squawking about that then you have a bigger problem. Heck way back in the bad old days I remember some times when I pulled in 10-15 hours a week flying online. That was the time my wife was really squawking at me but nowhere near divorce. Plus that was in playing Rainbow Six as well as flying in AW, WB and AH.

Move on brother and may you find peace.

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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #80 on: December 07, 2008, 04:44:20 AM »
Buddy I just pulled your November stats and if is squawking about that then you have a bigger problem. Heck way back in the bad old days I remember some times when I pulled in 10-15 hours a week flying online. That was the time my wife was really squawking at me but nowhere near divorce. Plus that was in playing Rainbow Six as well as flying in AW, WB and AH.

Move on brother and may you find peace.

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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #81 on: December 07, 2008, 01:33:04 PM »
My wife nearly divorced me on tour 20-22 when I was pulling 65 hours / month
Only if logging shopping and talking on the phone were that easy.
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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #82 on: December 07, 2008, 08:59:59 PM »
I am sorry your relationship is over, I hope that your wife will come to her senses and pull her head out of her uncle and realize that this will not only affect you but your Son as well.  Marriage counseling wasn't an option for her?  I wish you well in facing some tough times and be strong.

My only advice I can give you is to make your child your priority, no matter what else may be going on between you and your EX, make it a point to let your Son know that you Love him and that you are and always will be his Father in life, let him know that it isn't his fault and it has nothing to do with him.  As long as you have that, there is nothing she can take away from you that will matter.

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Many, Many, MANY oppertunities, but no.  On the other hand, as I stated in an earlier post,  I have seen many, Many, MANY women who have no problem cheating without remorse and have the uncanny ability to blame their infidelity on their husband.

Living in a Navy town, this goes on alot.  I have heard many terms used by guys that get involved with woman who's husband deploy for 6-12 months. 
Usually there is no harm no foul as long as the service member doesn't find out.  But they eventually do. 
Military guys that take care of military wives, well we call them "Jody's", they really don't want to get caught since its punishable under the UCMJ for banging a military spouse.
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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #83 on: December 08, 2008, 01:38:09 AM »
I never cheated on my ex. To sum up of what Dred said. It takes two. Took me years to understand that for some reason. But one person not willing to work at it is all it takes to fail in a Marriage. I use to think, and I was a bit myopic, that when someone said it takes two that they meant I wasn't trying. What it really means is that it doesn't matter if one person is trying.

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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #84 on: December 08, 2008, 12:40:24 PM »
A rough average time of a little over 3 hours a day isn't that bad. Could you have played less? Sure but do you think it would have changed the outcome for the better? I don't think so.

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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #85 on: December 08, 2008, 12:54:31 PM »
They say marriage adversely affects a woman's libido. That didn't happen with wife #1, just ask anybody.

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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #86 on: December 08, 2008, 01:56:07 PM »
They say marriage adversely affects a woman's libido. That didn't happen with wife #1, just ask anybody.

LOL, were we married to the same person, not at the same time of course ;o)
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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #87 on: December 08, 2008, 03:12:29 PM »
From 25 years of case files.....remember to protect yourself, don't feel guilty, get good legal representation early on and most importantly...a woman involved in a divorce can be the most evil, nasty,vindictive creature on the face of the planet.

Most of the time they are not the sweet things you fell in love with.

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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #88 on: December 08, 2008, 03:16:46 PM »
Only if logging shopping and talking on the phone were that easy.

And the funny part is that now I'm doing 252 hour work month as opposed to 170 hours back then and she doesn't complain..

Edit: Ugh weeks.. months.. who cares right? :D

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Re: Has anyones wife ever cheated on them
« Reply #89 on: December 08, 2008, 03:18:28 PM »
...a woman involved in a divorce can be the most evil, nasty,vindictive creature on the face of the planet.

Especially when it comes to Child Custody,,,,,,


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