bzzzt connection has everything to do with it. The closer the relative connections, the more likely both take damage proportionately. Conversely, the greater the disparity, only one may see the message and take damage. It's all about connections... the lesser variable is our human response time in trying to avoid a collision if possible/desired.
bzzzzzt no not really.
Collisions are detected on your own FE. Whether I hit the nme plane I am fighting or not has to do with what I am seeing on my Front End. Not theirs, not both, mine.
I DO see what your are getting at. The closer the connection the closer what both players are seeing will be. Using the old analogy about the nme plane towing another plane behind it, and THAT is the one you are seeing on your Front End, the closer the connection, the shorter the tow "rope".
So if both players filmed the fight...
The closer the disparity of the connection the more similar the fight will look on both films. (I fly right by you on my film missing by 20' whereas you see us collide or vs. versa)
The larger the disparity of the connections the less similar the fight will look on both films. (I fly right by you on my film missing by 200' whereas you see us collide or vs. versa)
But...
Whether or not we actually collide has nothing to do with connections. It has EVERYTHING to do with what you see on your Front End. If I collide with someone on my FE it doesn't matter that due to connection they REALLY are 100' away. My FE sees the collision and then sends the report of that collisions to the server, which sends it to the other player with the message "WMLute has collided with you".
I collided and took damage because I saw it on my Front End.
The FE decides the collision, not the AH server. The server is just acting as the middle man for both players Front Ends.
Which is why I always say in a 1 on 1 fight there are really 4 planes.
The two on your Front End (my towed plane and you) and the two on mine (your towed plane and me).
IF the Sever decided who collides your would be correct.
It doesn't, and you aren't.