Fugi,
If you go into the game expecting it to annoy you is it any wonder that you keep getting annoyed?
Funny how it's everyne else's fault that you don't seem to be enjoying it.
Funny how the majority of peple love the game and enjoy playing it their own way without worrying about how you are playing it, let alone dictating that you shuld have to play it like they do.
With respect, but little diplomacy, I would suggest to you to either quit the game or find a way of enjoying it without trying to change other people.
and...
While I agree with some points, I must say it is up to the individual player to create enjoyment for themselves. I have to do it on a daily basis when logging in, but I always seem to come up with some fun and new to do. Get up there, and have some fun Sir, you worry too much... 
There seems to be a big misconception here, who said I don't like the game?? I LOVE this game, maybe that's why I speak out for it so much. If everyone who ever got annoyed in or with this game quit there would be nobody playing! LOL!!
I look at this game like golf. They have a lot of similarities.
It doesn't really cost much to play, but the initial lay out for the tools can get pretty steep(computers, controllers, head gear, vs clubs, bag, shoes, GPS range finder, hand cart w/optional cooler

)
The games are both about you and your control. Make a mistake and you pay for it in either game (here your in the tower, there your in the sand trap/woods/pond).
Personally I play both with a certain amount of honor and respect. (here I don't HO, or run, or tower out my GV, or bail a buff. I give the best fight I can every time. I would think the other player may and SHOULD expect that. With golf sometimes throwing the ball would be easier than hitting it, counting strokes is all honor based, I respect the other players and count on them to count correctly and to not cause problems possible ruining my enjoyment of my round.)
Both games are a lot of fun, and also the most frustrating thing ever devised! ( here I fly all day looking for that one fight where my heart starts pounding and I start sweating, and my hands shake on the stick and finally after what seems like hours of fighting you see that system message we all look for....you have collided

No, the kill message! In golf it's more about that one shot, your swing is smooth, there is no strain in you muscles, the club whizzes around your head and makes contact with the ball and all you hear is that little "click", as you follow through your eyes come up and spot the ball arcing up through the air heading strait towards where you aimed it, bounces once, twice, maybe three times and rolls out that extra yardage toward the green. The rest of the time your dragging your club through the woods looking under the leaves for your ball, or digging gopher holes in the sand traps, or wadding into the ponds up to your knees because your wife won't let you buy any more balls!
Both games have their "gentlemen's rules". ( here hvy buffs drop from high alt and RTB after they drop, fighters don't HO and run, people don't vulch, people don't bomb GV fights that are not going for a capture, People don't spawn camp, people don't drive jeeps inside tanks and shoot the drivers, people don't use 30-40 people to attack a base NOE. With golf, you don't drive up on the foursome in front of you, if your a slow foursome you let the faster player play through, you rake the sand traps after digging in them, you don't move your ball to a better lie, you don't chase the birds with the carts, you don't use one club to get around the course, woods are for driving, irons for getting to the green, and putters to bend around trees

no, putters are for the greens.
For the most part people follow those rules on the course, but can't seem to handle it here. Why is that? More "kids" (mentally and/or physically) playing this game? Maybe seeing as if you step out of line on a course they will be instant repercussions, and this game too many hide behind their internet connection.
I love this game, and every time I log on I have fun eventually

I also know that there is so much more to this game that so many others are just blowing by because they have to win the war before supper time/bedtime. You don't see the "marathon" secessions that we use to have as much any more. Many a time you'd log on to play a couple hours and before you knew it the wife ack was letting you know "what time it was and that you had to work in the morning and she was going to bed so keep it down!" and of course you'd say you'll be along in a minute because you were only going to do one more run.... that turned into15-20 and now you had only 3 hours left before you had to get up to go to work. Other times you'd log off on a Friday night, get 6-8 hours sleep and log on in the morning for a couple quick one only to see half the people you were flying with last night STILL on!
Not any more, and why is that? Maybe because running in the horde for two hours is more than enough "fun" for one night, or maybe fighting the same 30-40 people all of the map as they roll base after base for a couple hours is more than enough "fun", or maybe getting bombed by dive bombing lancs for a couple hours while you where trying to have a GV fight more than enough "fun".
I know I can "find" some fun when I log on, but I'd rather log on and be able to jump into a mission with some objectives other than "flatten everything", or join a fighter sweep that hunts other missions instead of diving in on the biggest horde they can find to get as many kills as they can before being overwhelmed.