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« Reply #45 on: March 21, 2002, 03:58:39 PM »
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Basically i'm opposed to this because there are so many heterosexual couples who are unable to conceive naturally and have to wait in long cues to get access to IVF treatment.

 What the heck are you talking about? Oh, right - you are from Australia, comrade! With US private healthcare there is no wait to get access to IVF. Have $10,000 ready (some health insurance plans cover one try), go to the doctor and have the IVF cycle start right away. For cheaper one you may have to wait a couple of weeks.
 If you have couples wait in long lines (american for "queues"),  then your problem are not gays but socialism.

 Demanding to reduce the number of paying customers - you are out of your freaking communist mind if you can suggest this on an american board with a straight face! Did you confuse us with North Korea or Cuba?

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« Reply #46 on: March 21, 2002, 05:14:25 PM »
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Why would anyone CHOOSE to be gay. Thats like saying "I choose to live my life hiding my true self from others, facing ridicule or physical harm if I don't, getting treated like I have a MENTAL ILLNESS, shunned by some, laughed at by others"......whoooeee Where do I sign up!!!  


Sorry about the wrong terminology target, you're right, they don't choose. I'd like to reword my statement. :(

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What the heck are you talking about? Oh, right - you are from Australia, comrade! With US private healthcare there is no wait to get access to IVF. Have $10,000 ready (some health insurance plans cover one try), go to the doctor and have the IVF cycle start right away. For cheaper one you may have to wait a couple of weeks.


WTF are YOU talking about? What do you mean comrade? What gives you the right to accuse me of being from ANY political viewpoint, you dont know that about me. As a little point of interest for your fact starved post, we have a conservative government.

Since when was this an American only board? I've seen people from of a lot of different countries posting here. Thats a very arrogant statement you've made.

IVF is expensive and theres no guarantee it will work first, second, third time, or even at all. Where did I say 'reduce paying customers'? Did i say gay people were a problem? No. I was saying IVF was set up for couples who couldn't conceive naturally(yes i know that includes gay people) and I've always been of the opinion that IFV treatment is hard to get access too. It's a sticky problem and one that I only have a initial reaction to, maybe with more thought and some INTELLIGENT discussion i'll change my mind. Not veiled abuse.

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« Reply #47 on: March 22, 2002, 02:02:40 PM »
OK, gavor.

 I will gladly give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you happened to state that communist/nazi ideology
without realising what it was. If that is the case, I APPOLOGISE for the tone of my post.
 I will try explain my points as logically as I can, no hard feelings.

 Since when was this an American only board? I've seen people from of a lot of different countries posting here.
 My statements did not address your right to post here. Just that it was a stupid thing to suggest a totalitarian market-control* strategy in a country based on free market economy.
 I may have a right to post beef-preparation recipee on a hindu website or a stock investment advice on a North Korean one - I would be an idiot to do so! Any call "let's discriminantely prevent someone from buying something" would sound like an oxymoron to american public. Markets, demand, customers - it's the best thing that can happen - opportunity for profit and progress, for new jobs and satisfied demand. Why would anyone refuse that? Even arguments to limit firearms, drugs and abortions are not based on discrimination or shortage.

 * I love that expression - "market control". In USA "control" usually meants "extermination" or "reduction" - as in pest control, weight control, etc. ;)

 IVF treatment - while really quite simple - is a rather new development, quickly advancing. It is expencive and not assured. It often costs over $10,000 including few thousand worth of drugs per attempt - though small compared to the costs of raising a child. It is in great demand since many career women delay child bearing which increases chances of infertility. Also homosexuals use it to have children. In case of males it involves obtaining donor eggs and using a surrogate mother to carry the baby.

 Doctors are attracted to that filed, colleges prepare more of them and the pharmaceuticals are only to happy to produce more of the required drugs. All that, combined with research (fueled by the profits), economies of scale and growing competition make the treatment more affordable and widely available every month.
 That is the way it is working in US.

 Other countries - Australia, Canada, etc. while more or less free market succumbed to the "feel good" temptation and introduced price controls on medical care and drugs. I would not say that your healthcare system is as nationalised as the one in former soviet union, but it is much closer in that direction.

 With free capitalist market if you have a shortage/cost problem, all you have to do is wait or actually encourage the "culprits" - the extra money they make will attract competition that much faster and the problem get's resolved.

 In a socialist economy when something seems too expencive, the restrictions are imposed - usually proce controls. Economical reasons for increase in production are eliminated and the bureaucrats in chrge of the system do not care to implement the increase - why would they care. They will get access if they need to or they can always go to US for treatment. It's the average Joe that experiences the shortage. Of course all those progress-crippling decisions were made with the best intentions at the time - to make something more available right away.

 It was the same in Soviet Union. Allowing the people to open new business to satisfy demand would mean giving them freedom - out of the question.
 Planning for the centralised introduction of the new stuff required work and competence - and they personally were not interested.
 So the only solution remaining was to limit the demand - decide what the people should want! So with our "free" healthcare we did not have access to methods common in the west and what we had, we often had to pay bribes to get - some "free" healthcare!

As a little point of interest for your fact starved post, we have a conservative government.
 You can label it what you want - I had "democratically elected government" in Soviet Union myself ;). But if what you say - This is a real topic down here, a lesbian couple really is(or was) lobbying to get access to IVF - is true, then your country is more totalitarian then the Soviet Union in this respect. Not only having good money and being a tax-paying citizen is not enough to buy a product/service one wants, you regulate whether someone should live or not!
 Besides the personal rights, a person who is barred from having a child is as good as dead. What obligation does such person have to society? What stake does he/she have in the future of the society? What can society demand from such person? You think that it is an accident that suicide terrorists come from cultures where the practice of polyginy drastically cuts chances of many males to have children?

 Your country may still have 1.1% populatin growth. Most western societies are on the decline. In US's 0.9% growth rate is 1/2 due to the immigration - mostly from 3rd-world countries - and 1/4 due to birth in families of immigrants from 3rd world countries. The rest 1/4 is probably due to our own welfare mothers. Having more children in the families of educated working people is a huge benefit - whatever the sexual orientation.
 In US the court considers the adoption applicants for an existing child in carge of the state, may try to regulate abortion which may or may not be murder, but imposing limitations on breeding based on discrimination!? Even chinese impose it equally due to overpopulation, not because some people are better. Nazi are the only ones who actually did that in modern history.
 Even if the children of homosexuals were guaranteed to be homosexuals, would they be any less valuable members of society? Recall all geniuses who were gay! How about the Alan Turing who made huge advances in science and saved millions of lives in WWII by breaking german codes!
 Of course if you pose a question that having a child by one person necessarily prevents another one from having a baby due to shortage - then you have a need for decision. But that is the fault of your society as there is no reason for supply not to equal demand. The government would love to have one more power over us - right to decide who lives and who doesn't!

 Here is the "communism" of your remarks:
No. I was saying IVF was set up for couples...
 Do you own an IVF clinic? If so, you can set it up for anyone you want (if the laws allow you to discriminate between customers). Who decides what the other clinics were set up for? It is implied in your statement that someone is entitled to decide who deserves treatment and who does not and that no extra clinics should be opened to accomodate the demand from the "wrong" customers.
 You do[/b] argue for reducing the number of paying custommers in order to reduce the demand - based on your cultural preferences that have nothing to do with the actual quality of children raised by homosexuals as compared by "normals". Even if that "quality" was somehow your concern which it obviously isn't.
 Of course you may feel like you are entitled to make the decision because your taxes subcidise the healthcare in your country and your government regulates it - but that only makes you more responcible for the supply shortage. And actually constitutes communism. First nationalise something, then decide who gets access.

Lesbians have chosen a lifestyle that excludes them from having children...
 Obviously it does not. Neither it does male homosexuals. It is you who want to exclude them from having children by barring their access to IVF. I bet you do not have a problem if a gay doctor performes the same IVF.

 Is it so hard to mind your own business and let pople decide what to do - whether to buy, sell, produce, research, have kids, etc? It is to some.

 In all the totalitarian societies the shortage was the fault of the government restrictions but the blame was cast on some group to divert the public anger.
 In this respect your remarks are not so much communist as nazi. The communists blamed the political "class" enemies - capitalists, bourjeois and their "sympathisers", saboteurs, traitors, "leftists", "rightists", etc.
 Nazis are the ones differentiating between people by their biology - mentally disabled, gays, gypsys, jews, subhuman, etc.

 So you get my gist - wether intended or not you are not in good company - despite your likely good intentions. I respect you desire to have an intelligent discussion and hope this post clears my points in a non-offencive way.
 If you are really concerned about your people getting access to this wonderfull treatment, you should work towards making it more available, not restrictive. You should have enough of it not only for any australian who wants it but available and cheap enough to serve people from other countries - it will bring you country a lot of money as well as good karma. Someone conceived in an australian clinic is less likely to wish a war with you. ;)

 This post is not as clear as it could be due to time restrictions, but I hope I was civil. :)

 miko
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« Reply #48 on: March 22, 2002, 02:12:03 PM »
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 Not in this case - you are either born with it or not. Pretty-well studied subject. Some people are more or less bisexual and can suppress the "gay" part which gives rumors that it is a matter of "choice".

 miko



No...there is NO evidence to support that Homosexuality is gentic at THIS time. The one guy who came "close" to proving it supposedly was busted on altering his data if I recall.

Not slaming you Miko just saying that as far I know it HAS NOT been proven to be anything other than deviant behavior.

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Of course, I only see what he posts here and what he does in the MA.  I know virtually nothing about the man.  I think its important for people to realize that we don't really know squat about each other.... definately not enough to use words like "hate".

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« Reply #49 on: March 22, 2002, 02:29:30 PM »
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The American Academy of Pediatrics, the American Counseling Association, the American Psychiatric Association, the American Psychological Association, the National Association of School Psychologists, and the National Association of Social Workers, together representing more than 477,000 health and mental health professionals, have all taken the position that homosexuality is not a mental disorder and thus there is no need for a "cure."



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Not slaming you Miko just saying that as far I know it HAS NOT been proven to be anything other than deviant behavior.


Well xbat....where might this proof be?

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« Reply #51 on: March 23, 2002, 06:06:09 PM »
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No...there is NO evidence to support that Homosexuality is gentic at THIS time. The one guy who came "close" to proving it supposedly was busted on altering his data if I recall.

Not slaming you Miko just saying that as far I know it HAS NOT been proven to be anything other than deviant behavior.

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Really? Ever hear of "Gender Dysphoria"?

Believe it or not, gender is not a simple as black or white, male or female, noodle or vagina. There's a full spectrum between male and female and it has little to do with the physical reproductive parts that might be present (or not).

Try tolerance. One can seldom go wrong with tolerance.
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« Reply #52 on: March 23, 2002, 06:26:50 PM »
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Really? Ever hear of "Gender Dysphoria"?

Believe it or not, gender is not a simple as black or white, male or female, noodle or vagina. There's a full spectrum between male and female and it has little to do with the physical reproductive parts that might be present (or not).

Try tolerance. One can seldom go wrong with tolerance.


wtf kinda weird movies do you watch sandman? "there is a full spectrum between male and female" yeah...right...what kind of scary experiences do you have in this area?

I know that there are occasions where children has been born with "both sexes" is that what you are referring to here?

And it is still not proven that homosexuality is genetic. And (as we all know) it is not up to someone to prove that it isnt genetic,it is those who claim that it is genetic that has to prove their theory. That has not been done, and I doubt it ever will.

Think about it, if homosexuality was genetic...how would those genes spread or in other words...how would gay people have kids? And before someone says insemination, let me ask how the genes were passed down the generations in the past?

The entire theory is flawed.

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« Reply #53 on: March 23, 2002, 06:28:41 PM »
...and if it isnt genetic, then it is either environmental or choosen.

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« Reply #54 on: March 23, 2002, 07:25:44 PM »
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...and if it isnt genetic, then it is either environmental or choosen.


No, it is an abnormality of genetics, much like a trout that has two heads or someone who is born blind, but the trout with two heads or the blind person STILL has to deal with their lot in life, so why make it harder on them? Gay people have no choice in sexual preference, and to anyone who refutes this and believes we can actually be MADE to be gay- well, how bout a kiss, big boy? (Hmmm...no takers...)

Personally I deal with people head to head rather than body to body. I don't give a rat's bellybutton what trips your trigger and it's none of your business what trips my trigger either. We all give up so much of ourselves voluntarily by proclaming ourselves to be "gay" or "straight" and when it comes right down to it sexuality is a non-issue.

If you are willing to provide a home to a foster child who needs guidance and direction in his/her life then I don't give a rat's bellybutton WHAT you get off on, as long as it's not children like the one you just "adopted."

If all of you who are so opposed to gay adoptions would open up YOUR homes to foster children instead of sitting on this BB and clucking like hens like you do on EVERY issue  then maybe we wouldn't even be having this discussion, huh? Either put up or shut up.

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« Reply #55 on: March 24, 2002, 03:12:56 PM »
Hortlund,

Once again you are so very wrong.

At the risk of having one of you knuckleheads equate homosexuality to a disease again, please check this link .

This is a genetically transmitted disease that is almost 100% fatal prior to puberty. It has mounds of evidence proving its genetic links. The persons contracting this illness have NO WAY of passing it on to their children, they never live long enough to have any. How could this disease possibley continue Hortlund? The logic is equivelent to your statement.

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Think about it, if homosexuality was genetic...how would those genes spread or in other words...how would gay people have kids? And before someone says insemination, let me ask how the genes were passed down the generations in the past?

The entire theory is flawed.


Somebodies theory is flawed. :cool:

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« Reply #56 on: March 24, 2002, 03:53:22 PM »
Oh please.

You cant just say that I'm "so very wrong", post a link to something completely unrelated, and then leave it at that.

In fact, I'm not sure I understand what you are aiming for here. Let me try to explain my point more clearly. Please tell me what part you disagree with of these:

1) Homosexuality is either genetic, environmental OR chosen.

2) It has not been proven that homosexuality is genetic.

3) 1 and 2 gives: It is possible that homosexuality is environmental and/or choosen.

4) Studies show that children in homosexual relationships are more likely to experiment with gay sex. Studies also show that the percentage of gay children from gay parenting is the same as the general population.

5) Children raised by gays are more likely to be bi or homosexual than children raised by heterosexuals.

[edit] note if you will that 5 is the logical conclusion from 4. So if you want to agree with 4, and disagree with 5, you will have to come up with something *really* smart to say.
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« Reply #57 on: March 24, 2002, 04:14:40 PM »
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The news magazine "Prime Time" on ABC covered the issue of gay adoption last night. No, not adopting gays, but gay parents adopting children. The entire show was centered around this case  let him stay and of course the "coming out" of Rosie O'Donnel (surprise surprise).

Some very compelling points were made in support of allowing gay couples to adopt. Actually only 3 States do not allow gays to adopt; Florida, Mississippi and Utah. The family in question is 2 gay nurses who have adopted 5 HIV positive children and have established a very structured and loving home environement.

There are thousands of children at risk and available for adoption. Should we limit the number of parents willing to take care of them?


My wife and I watched this *coverage* by Diane Sawyer. It was the usual story.

First, they find a heartwrenching, compelling story. Have the liberal side told by a sophisticated educated person (O-Donnell) who will give their account of the situation with a feel-good, sometimes laugh, sometimes cry, saga of a  tear-jerking story. Ocassionally pan the camera over to the interviewer (Sawyer) who can give the needed ooo's and ahh's. Then, of course have the other side covered with a couple of sound bytes from the conservative guy that'll paint him in a bad light (gotta have that so those stupid ppl out there in TV land will know the right decision to make)

That piece should have been called "Rosie O 'Donells story", because that is what it was. It was in no way an even handed attempt to give both sides their say. O'donnell was on camera at least 75% of the show. That should tell you something.

Here's my viewpoint on gay adoption: I don't really have one.

Now, as for homosexuality, disease or no? Well, IMO it sure aint natural. I think some people are obviously more inclined to be gay than others. Gene related? maybe so. Because some people are inclined to have sexual relations with the same sex does that it make it ok? Or is that considered sexual relations at all? Doesn't it take male/female to have sexual realitons? Don't gay men have "intercourse" by putting the noodle in another mans rectum? Take a big step back. Look at it from far off. What does putting a noodle inside a rectum do? Is that not where fecal matter is ejected from the body? Is this healthy? No. Is it practical? Me wouldn't think so. But hey, I'm one of those stupid conservative guys.

And on top of all that, I'm Christian, the Bible says it's sin so that's what I gotta believe. Now, does this mean I would be disrespectful to a gay man if I worked with one? Of course not. Being a homosexual is no bigger than any other sin. But from the Christian angle you have to consider it sin.
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« Reply #58 on: March 24, 2002, 04:39:32 PM »
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Now, as for homosexuality, disease or no? Well, IMO it sure aint natural. I think some people are obviously more inclined to be gay than others. ...

And on top of all that, I'm Christian, the Bible says it's sin so that's what I gotta believe. Now, does this mean I would be disrespectful to a gay man if I worked with one? Of course not. Being a homosexual is no bigger than any other sin. But from the Christian angle you have to consider it sin.


Of course it's natural. Check out the rest of your barnyard animals. Plenty of gender confused behavior going on there. Abnormal... certainly. Unnatural?

As for the Bible... I think the only restriction on homosexuality comes from the book of Leviticus. Go ahead and research all the prohibitions in that book. You can't just pick the parts that suit you.
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« Reply #59 on: March 24, 2002, 05:31:01 PM »
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I always wondered how lesbians practice "Safe Sex"...I think I know now....


Hehe, Rip's post didn't get a response, but I thought it was the most enlightning in this thread ;).  WOW, I gotta check out the OC more often, this is fun reading ... whoops, popcorn is ready, BRB ...

Cya Up!