I see two groups of people in the arenas.
Group A are the players who are trying to win the war for their country. They do whatever they can to help see that through. They will vultch a field, cherry pick, HO, whatever. They just want to defeat the enemy.
Group B want to have "civil fights" (that was the dumbest phrase I heard in this thread btw). This group throws around words like "fairness", "lame", and "dweeb". Group B players have their idea of the perfect arena and expend great effort trying to implement "rules of engagement" and shape the behavior of those who do not see the arena the way they do. Huge threads about "Is the HO honorable" abound with Group B players.
Group B players try to build this "other game" within the game Group A players are playing. This does not pose a problem for the Group A player because he just sees the Group B player as another target. The Group B player however sees "lameness", "vultchers", "alt monkeys", "HO potatos", "dweebs", etc. etc, etc. In frustration, he then comes here and unloads on all of us.
I say, if you want "civil fights" then take it to the Dogfight Arena. That's why it exists.