Tony:
"I have no comment on the how the relative armaments are modelled in the game, because I don't play it. However, I have the impression that hitting and destroying targets is much easier in all combat sims than it was in RL. After all, in RL most fighter pilots never shot down anything, ever."
Firstly, try AH, it's a blast

Secondly, hitting is probably much easier than in RL, but still not that easy. Some pilots are good shots, some are not.
The weapon effectiveness seems to be more than in RL if anything, and yet sometimes not.
I flew Il-2 as well, it seemed more realistic in terms of damage and gunnery model. In my first online fight however, I pinged 5 enemy aircraft (5 on 1 situation), then with no ammo left I got away from them. I used AH tactics and they worked, but you'd not get away like this in AH, - I used blackout maneuvers and clouds to escape

In RL indeed, many a pilot never had an engagement. However, in RL you also had pilots with dozens of kills without being scratched, so.....
In RL aircraft did get gunned down, they lost major parts, they blew up, they got eaten up by fire and so on. Maybe AH does not represent it accurately, but I belive it's slowly getting there.
BTW, a recent analysis of Douglas Bader being downed claims he was shot down by another Spitfire. He belived it was a collision with a 109.
Well, his aircraft was cut in half behind the cockpit so I rather would think it was a collision.