Originally posted by Flit
The thing that really bugs me is the "I want a trial separation" followed by the "how should we divide our assets". That to me seems to indicate that she has made up her mind. All I can do is continue to love her and hope the spark comes back.
Thanks for all the good wishes, it does make a difference !
women. No offence to the women here.
Really its more of a compliment.
While they often do tricval things on the spur of the moment
Women tend to think major issues through moreso then men. Particularly life changing issues.
They plot and plan.
that is why when women cheat they rarely get caught.
Because they have everything planned out to the last detail before they ever do it.
Where as men. do it, then think about covering their tracks affterwards.
Or men will decide to do something then worry about taking care of the details as they go along
Not that that has anything to do with whats going on here.
The fact she asked you about how to divide your assets doesnt really suprise me. She probably has been thinking of it for a while.
the fact she is willing to seek counceling is a good sign.
Make use of it.
You wioll proably be asked about each others concerns. (complaints)
Dont be afraid to vice them. and dont be afraid to listen either.
Typically what happens is the counceler will ask if you can do this that or the other thing to address her concerns. and her to do the same till the next time you all meet.
Do your part. Then pay attention. without saying anything to her one way or the other if she does the same.
You can tell alot by her actions how serious she is about getting help.
But take a fair look and dont look for absolute perfection.
IF you do that and all you see is a no, or only a half hearted effort on her part. then you know she is only going through the motions just so she can say "she tried"
but keep seeking help so long as she is willing.
Even if it doesnt help her. or you two as a pair. it may end up helping you
