Author Topic: Adultery, no double standard, is it wrong? (Read 3320 times)

Habu · « **Reply #60 on:** October 30, 2004, 04:12:00 PM »

Some people are not trailer trash Maniac.

You are absolutely right trailer trash will do it every time. I am sure you would have acted in a Porno film as well if anyone had offered you the chance (and your dick was 7" longer).

Not everyone is willing to betray those they love. Not everyone is in a loveless marrage. Not everyone thinks that the good looking collegue getting drunk with them at a company event is better than what they have at home.

And not everyone married the first person stupid enough to sleep with them either.

Thrawn · « **Reply #61 on:** October 30, 2004, 04:26:37 PM »

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Originally posted by Maniac
If she gets a good setup, she will do it.

Prove it.

Martlet · « **Reply #62 on:** October 30, 2004, 04:46:41 PM »

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Originally posted by Maniac
You fools can keep on living in "lala land" with the belife "NOT MY WIFE".

If she gets a good setup, she will do it.

Maybe in your trailer park.

capt. apathy · « **Reply #63 on:** October 30, 2004, 04:58:56 PM »

obviously nobody can be completely sure their partner is faithful. however I've made it over 20 years without cheating, so the idea of "everybody cheats" is just crap.

sounds like something a guy tells himself to make it easier to live with something he did (or something she did).

Neubob · « **Reply #64 on:** October 30, 2004, 05:16:23 PM »

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Originally posted by Maniac
Everyone cheats.

If you think that your wife wouldnt do it if she got the chance, then you need your head examined.

The way you make it sound, it's like everyone man and every woman is just a ticking time bomb, ready to explode into an orgy of extramarital activity.

Either you're in a bad mood, coming off a bad breakup stemming from just such an event or you're just tragically unlucky. Maybe you're a victim of unrequited love. Maybe you're a product of a broken home... Who knows... Whatever it is, this has got to be one of the saddest statements I've ever heard...

True love and undying loyalty does exist, even the age of internet porn, .com billionaires and MTV... True love, where one views their life as less valuable than that of his/her loved one, is a timeless thing. I need look no further than my parents to see this--two people who've been through hell together, sometimes, because of each other...

Jackal1 · « **Reply #65 on:** October 30, 2004, 05:47:46 PM »

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Originally posted by GtoRA2
Jackal1
You pinhead, no I have never been cheated on.

And yes women can be just as bad.

now go back to highschool and let the adults talk.

Hit a nerve huh?

BTW, you missed the high school thing by about 34 years Junior.

Martlet · « **Reply #66 on:** October 30, 2004, 05:51:03 PM »

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Originally posted by Jackal1
Hit a nerve huh?

BTW, you missed the high school thing by about 34 years Junior.

He was suggesting you go back and finish, Sr.

Jackal1 · « **Reply #67 on:** October 30, 2004, 05:58:01 PM »

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He was suggesting you go back and finish, Sr.

I`d suggest you might want to go clean your cave and get a grip.

Martlet · « **Reply #68 on:** October 30, 2004, 06:13:47 PM »

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Originally posted by Jackal1
I`d suggest you might want to go clean your cave and get a grip.

A grip on what? Your rudeness?

Back to your trailer park, rube.

Maniac · « **Reply #69 on:** October 30, 2004, 06:16:32 PM »

Some things are better left alone, and not to be discussed/thinked of, if you want to stay happy...

Meaning of life.
Death.
Cheating.

Ignorance is bliss

Martlet · « **Reply #70 on:** October 30, 2004, 06:19:44 PM »

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Ignorance is bliss

Wow. You take the liberal creed into all aspects of your life.

JB73 · « **Reply #71 on:** October 30, 2004, 06:21:19 PM »

Im bored so i'll chime in...

cheating is so wrong there are almost no words for it. you give someone trust, and they betray it.

i call BS to those new age shrinks that say "you can work through this, and mend the ties that bond" if you truly want to continue the relationship, and trust the other person again you are blinding yourself, lying to yourself, and hiding from the truth.

myself, i was cheated on once, by my ex. she said they only kissed, then she left and i reluctantly let it go and moved on wit the relationship. after the relationship obviously ended i learned the truth. she cheated 2 other times later on, and there was a "friend" that knew about this. he was torn up the last 6 months of the relationship about needing to tell me, but knowing full well what it would do.

he told me after it ended, and i was crushed. i was pised at him for not telling me earlier, but that was insignificant to the actual cheating.

i have a hard time trusting any woman would not cheat, and look suspiciously on any woman that is pubically flirty. why is she like that? is she looking for a better deal? is she looking for attention? what happens if she gets attention from those actions?

the morals of a person really show the true nature of their soul IMHO. a cheater is a decietful lying slug, not to be trusted with blunt objects in a padded room.

TweetyBird · « **Reply #72 on:** October 30, 2004, 07:28:47 PM »

Maybe we can get some Mormon polygamists to chime in

mosgood · « **Reply #73 on:** November 01, 2004, 12:22:54 PM »

This is a really charged issue. Always has been and always will.... .

I'm 36 yrs old. been single my whole life (by choice) and have done more than my fair share of sleeping around, but never when I've been exclusively dating someone. To me it's a matter of pride. I can look myself in the mirror and say "I'm an honest man". I'm not perfect but I can truly say that I'm an honest man.

But, I HAVE been cheated on. It's sucks and it really get me worked up. It's hard to think rationally, at those times, that it's not some kind of problem with yourself but a problem the women has with her own self-esteem or integrity. That she has honesty issues... and I know that this is gonna sound corny but she will have to live with herself... in the long run she is gonna have to look HERSELF in the mirror and judge what she thinks of herself.

I would rather be cheated on than have to face that.

Vulcan · « **Reply #74 on:** November 01, 2004, 01:06:29 PM »

Cheating happens all the time, Maniac is right "ignorance is bliss".

Its also worth pointing out cheating as discussed here is more of a social attitude learned. There are some minor biological drivers towards jealousy, but there are plenty of examples of non-monogamus societies that work well.

We are in essense animals, and there are forces that drive us that we understand but sometimes cannot control.

If you think your wife will not cheat on your because of a wedding ring, marriage certificate, agreement, or a collection of boring novelletes hastily thrown together and called the bible... then you've got a nasty shock coming. None of those reasons will stop her, what will stop her is love (I'd also point out that biologically speaking someone deeply in love stops shopping around - so I mean love in an emotional and biological sense).

As for me cheating... my wife made me promise if I found a hot looking chick to shag that I bring her home