kieran - most of what you are asking has already been answered in my posts but i'll try my best.
if you are asking for a strict rule saying do this or do that then you are abandoning the one thing the bible gives you - interpretability if it is interpretable for you then it is for me too -
And He instructed His disciples that they should take nothing for their journey, except a mere staff; no bread, no bag, no money in their belt; but to wear sandals; and He added, "Do not put on two tunics." – Jesus quoted by Mark 6:8-9
his message to his disciples is his message to me in my opinion, i don't seperate their duties from mine...
The young man said to Him, "All these things I have kept; what am I still lacking?" Jesus said to him, "If you wish to be complete, go and sell your possessions and give to the poor, and you shall have treasure in heaven; and come, follow Me." – Jesus quoted by Matthew 19:20
sounds like capitol advice but again, i've never met a christian that did as this guy......
And as they were going along the road, someone said to Him, "I will follow You wherever You go." And Jesus said to him, "The foxes have holes, and the birds of the air have nests, but the Son of Man has nowhere to lay His head." – Jesus quoted by Luke 9:57-58
i feel this is a perfect testimony of faith - these versus formed my view mostly 0 i think there was another that said "don't even bother to get married, he's coming!" - lol roughly paraphrased of course, maybe someone can clue me in on that as i forget or was mistaken...andof course what i quoted before about the generation not passing away etc - that really drives home the urgency of jesus' mission by my interpretation.
as for your second question, it doesn't say anyone should be confrontational as far as i recall that's just how i'd be by my interpretation of what it asks of christians.
if you believe that the word saves souls then how should you proceed? meekly? cautiously? timidly? my interpretation is that- if you believe - you should beg borrow and steal your way into convincing people and never let up - if you love everyone then you will be hurting at the thought of losing their souls - personally, that would torture me.
and for your third question - john's humility only makes me love his style more - i'm basing my point of view on his actions to answer your question more directly.
thanks again funked - i'd love to hear that point expanded btw - religion requires seperation but you and others, kieren, airhead and others included want to justify their religious rules with their sense of justice, i think that is cool and shows where your heart is.
i still contend though that if you strictly follow the bible, you just can't have it both ways. that's my deepest point of contention.